A Diagnosis Doesn't Define Your Love Life
If you've recently been diagnosed with herpes — or you've been living with it for years and still haven't found your footing — I want you to know something first:
You are not damaged. You are not unlovable. And you are absolutely not alone.
A herpes diagnosis can feel like a before and after moment. Like the life you imagined for yourself — the intimacy, the dating, the confidence — suddenly has an asterisk next to it. That feeling is real, and it makes complete sense. But it isn't the whole story.
I know this because I've lived it too.
HSV Support Coaching
After my HSV diagnosis, I felt like my life was over. I wasn't looking for clinical information, I already had that. I had no idea where to search for herpes support. What I was looking for was someone who understood what it actually felt like — the shame, the fear of telling someone, the questions about whether I'd ever feel fully confident and desirable again.
That was hard to find. Which is a big part of why I do this work.
As a certified intimacy coach with lived experience of HSV, I offer something that medical providers and support forums can't — a deeply human, shame-free space to process what you're going through and build a path forward that feels like yours.
I'm Alexia — a Somatica-certified sex and intimacy coach, and someone who understands this journey personally. I won't pretend it's always easy. But I've seen what becomes possible when someone stops letting their diagnosis shrink their life.
You deserve a full, rich, intimate life. Not someday. Now.
I'd be honored to be part of your journey back to that.
This Is the Support I Wished I’d Had
What We Might Be Navigating Together
Every person's journey with HSV is different, but these are some of the most common things that come up in our work:
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That inner voice that says you're now somehow less worthy of love or intimacy. We work to understand where that voice comes from — and quiet it.
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Telling a new partner is one of the most anxiety-inducing parts of living with HSV. We work on finding the words, the timing, and the confidence to have that conversation on your terms. With herpes support coaching, you can learn and practice tools to help with your disclosure conversations.
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Getting back out there can feel terrifying. We work on reconnecting with your desirability, your boundaries, and your ability to attract the kind of connection you actually want. I’ll help make dating with herpes feel attainable for you.
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HSV doesn't have to mean the end of a fulfilling sex life. Intimacy after herpes is possible. We work on rebuilding your relationship with your body and your pleasure — without shame, without fear.
Ways We Can Work Together
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Sometimes shame is heaviest right at the beginning. This confidential, voice-only session was created specifically for those moments — when you don't want to carry it alone but showing up on camera feels like too much.
We'll focus on whatever you need most: processing the shock of diagnosis, soothing shame and panic, or simply feeling less alone. No camera required. No judgment. Ever.
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This package was designed specifically for the HSV journey — not as an afterthought, but as its own carefully crafted path. Over six sessions we move through emotional support, shame and self-image repair, disclosure practice, and all the way through to reclaiming your pleasure and sexual agency. Paced entirely around you, consent-focused, and 100% confidential.
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Not sure where to start? It’s okay.
There's no need to commit to a package right away. Individual 50-minute sessions let us begin wherever you are and build from there at a pace that feels right for you.
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A relaxed 30-minute conversation to explore what you're navigating and whether we're a good fit. Your $20 is credited toward your first session and you can choose a voice only or video session.
Who This Is For
This work is for you if:
You've recently been diagnosed and don't know where to turn
You've been living with HSV for a while but still feel held back by shame or fear
You're ready to start dating again but don't know how to navigate disclosure
You want to feel confident, desirable, and fully alive in your intimate life again
You're tired of feeling like your diagnosis is bigger than you are
Why HSV Support Coaching?
HSV support coaching is different from therapy or medical care. Rather than focusing on diagnosis or treatment, we focus on rebuilding — your confidence, your dating life, your relationship with intimacy and pleasure after herpes. This is forward-focused, shame-free work designed specifically for where you are right now.
This journey doesn’t have to feel so isolating. I am here to help.